Sex. Important word. Troublesome subject for many. If anyone were to do a research study on recovering addicts, they would undoubtedly find that much distress and many, if not most relapses are around relationships, usually sexual relationships. Difficult for anyone, intimate relationships are especially problematic for alcoholics and addicts. Healthy relationships require unselfishness, not a strong suit among addicts, even if the addiction is work, television, skiing or other sports, or something else “acceptable”. Continue reading →
Porn is everywhere, and everyone is doing it…computers, movies, magazines, and video clips on cell phones…all are part of everyday life for some people. So, what’s the big deal? Think there is any downside? Is porn something you want to be part of your life? Or are you more interested in real relationships with real people?
The cost of porn? Reduction of your capacity to have meaningful and fulfilling relationships (not just sexual relationships.) You become shut off from the richness and fullness of life. And, it is not true that “nobody knows”. You may never be “caught in the act”, but if you have a partner, she knows; others know by how you relate to people. Your loneliness and isolation increase. Continue reading →