The illusion is that if we just know why, we can effect change. Not so. “Why” is the refrain of the two year old and of the teenager. Never ending and always prompting another question, not a solution, “why” becomes a mental gyration. “Why” is the booby prize! We can speculate, understand the psychodynamics, believe we know the pathway we have followed to our present state of being, perhaps our present state of self destruction, and still continue down said pathway! Continue reading
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Why Can’t You Just Control Your Drinking?
We interrupt this series on Healthy Relationships to bring you a bulletin. This just in: heavy alcohol use can interfere with relationships!
“I don’t want to stop drinking. I want to drink moderately, like two or three beers a night. If I do that I can get my wife/girlfriend/husband/boss off my back. I think if I just stick to beer, maybe wine when we go out to eat, I’ll be okay. It’s the hard stuff that’s a problem.” “Or maybe I could drink beer during the week, and the other stuff, just one or two…maybe three drinks, on weekends.” Continue reading
Overeating, Is It Complusive?
Two plus two equals four. Calories in put on weight, calories out take off weight. Simple, basic, straightforward and clear. Don’t want to gain weight, don’t eat more calories than you burn up. Calories you drink count, too. Want to lose weight, burn up more than you take in. So what’s the problem? Why is obesity epidemic in this country?
There are all kinds of “extenuating circumstances”, reasons, excuses used by overweight Americans.
“I’m too busy to exercise.” Continue reading
Is everyone “addicted” to something?
Dictionary definitions of addiction include:
“Compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming substance (heroin, nicotine, alcohol, etc.) characterized by tolerance and by well-defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal”. “Persistent compulsive use of a substance known by the user to be harmful”.
Addict: (n) “One who is addicted to a substance.”
Addict: (v) “To devote or surrender oneself to something habitually or obsessively.” Continue reading